“The hardest thing to find in life is happiness, money is only hard to find because it gets wasted trying to find happiness”
Happiness comes with the stuffs money cannot buy. But money can serves a path to reach to your aim of happiness. Money is only medium but ultimate key resides in ones hand to skillfully utilize their resource to find happiness.
Happiness may be found in poor cottage also
So argument here is money can buy happiness but not always and without money also life can be happier. It’s all desire to have something which you don’t have, makes you unhappy. So try to be content with whatever you have, life will be lot easier.
Here are five beliefs about happiness that actually make us unhappy:
Belief 1: I need other people’s approval to be happy.
Do you often do things only to please other people?
Human beings are driven by “social proof.” Approval is extremely important to us.
We wait to buy the latest gadgets to look cool. We attend boring office parties to fit in. We don’t pursue our dreams because our families don’t approve.
But just ask yourself: Are these actions (or inactions) bringing you any real happiness?
The pursuit of approval is very different from the pursuit of happiness. Let’s not fail to distinguish between the two.
Belief 2: I will be happy when I have…
…a bigger house, a promotion, a baby, awards, respect, those designer shoes!
The reason why this belief is so strong is because it’s partly true. Yes, you will feel happy when you get promoted or buy a house.
The question is: Is this happiness lasting?
While you will escape your landlord’s ranting, you will have to pay new taxes and spend good money maintaining your new house.
Each level of accomplishment will bring its own set of problems.
Belief 3: I can’t be happy unless everything goes right.
Have you ever lost your luggage on a vacation? It upsets everything, doesn’t it?
Instead of enjoying the charms of a wonderful new city (or countryside), you’re running around buying clothes and other stuff, wondering if the airline will ever return your luggage.
That’s what happened on a vacation with my family.
Strangely, now when we think about that vacation, the trouble we faced because of the lost luggage doesn’t bother us. We just talk about the wonderful time we had.
The vacation didn’t have to be perfect. The only thing that really mattered to us was that we had an opportunity to have a great time together.
Think about it: are vacations, parties, dates, or any other special occasions everperfect? If something goes wrong does that mean the entire trip or evening is a failure?
Yes, it is a failure, but only if you believe so.
Let’s extend the discussion further: Is anything in life ever perfect? We have ups and downs every day.
Life is imperfect—perhaps that’s what make it more interesting!
Belief 4: I can’t be happy because of what’s happened in the past.
The past controls us in mysterious ways.
You might have lost a loved one to misunderstanding or death. You might have failed to achieve your dreams. As a result, you may have developed one of these beliefs: “I am not meant to find happiness” or “It’s not my destiny to be happy.”
Personally, I haven’t lost much in life, but I know someone who has. I used to wonder how she could enjoy life despite such tragedies, until she revealed her simple secret…
She believes that she has the right to be happy, despite her past misfortunes.
Your past doesn’t control your future unless you let it. Millions have turned their lives around. If they can be happy, why can’t you?
Belief 5: Happiness is not a habit that can be learned.
Can you actually learn to be happy? Like learning baseball or the guitar?
Yes. Happiness is a skill—one that you build through a number of daily choices.
Numerous studies have indicated that people who are happier have certain habits: they exercise, meditate, pay attention to their relationships, pursue their goals diligently, lead balanced lives, are grateful.
Research shows that by thwarting negative emotions, such as pessimism, resentment, and anger, and fostering positive emotions, such as empathy, serenity, and gratitude, the brain can be trained to become happier.
Happiness does not depend on fate; it depends on our habits—habits that anyone can learn.